2017 is nearly over and though for many this is time to say good riddance I feel a lot of hope going into 2018. A lot of horrible issues were raised this year, but I hope that the raised profile means we are no longer going to ignore them. So I am glad people are talking about the damage of single-use plastics, talking about the horrendous racism in the press and in politics and the rise of the #metoo movement which will hopefully enact some long-term change.
Personally, this has been a difficult year too, but one that has led to a lot of growth, change and learning. This is what I am coming to in this post here, things I have learned. Some of these are serious, some are less so, but I hope they are useful to you.
- I am strong and can achieve things on my own. This was more a thing I had to re-learn than learn. At the end of 2016, I was feeling quite run down and beat down by things. But now I see I can do it, even if I make a tonne of mistakes along the way.
- I don’t have to to do it alone. I can do it alone, but I have amazing friends and family who support me in ways I did not even think possible. I am so very lucky. I also have excellent support from the NHS in the form of my psychiatric care, which means I am very lucky indeed.
- That this page with a theory about Carly Rae Jepson exists and it completely holds true even with her most recent output and it has blown my mind. Seriously, clear a few hours and read it. It is one of my favourite things on the internet.
- That every moment we get the opportunity to make ourselves. With each choice and action, we make the person we are. We make ourselves into what the world sees with our choices and our actions. We do this minute to minute and have more agency than we can comprehend. I think this is why it is easier to forget that and just get on with life, but it is worth remembering sometimes.
- It is not too late to start the thing. It is not too late to start writing, living life the way you dreamed of, knitting, learning to dance, going vegan. There is so much you can do and there is no right time to start doing it.
- American’s pronounce the word ‘twat’ as ‘twod’. This confuses me.
- That I love my independence and won’t easily give it up for anything or anyone.
- Apparently deciding you want to do something and then doing it is rare. I tend to do life in variations of this. If something seems like a good idea I tend to want to do it, so I do if it is possible. Apparently, other people mostly talk about doing things and never do them which is something I find hard to get my head around.
- It. Gets. Better. It just does.
- You are loved. Yes, you. We value you. Please keep going, we will help if we can.